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Milestones: Self Reflection, Miracles, and Best Wishes of the Season

On my mind, Relationship, Couples, Sexuality, Trauma and Neglect /

For me historically, holidays, anniversaries, birthdays and other marked dates that cycled around every year laden with hopes and expectations, fantasies and even magical prayers were always a terrible trap. Particularly those that were supposed to be occasion for lavish and abundant presents. In our family they of course usually were not. I certainly longed […]

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Angels Dimensions of Possibility

On my mind, Relationship, Couples, Sexuality, Trauma and Neglect /

Another remarkable BBC story in the wee hours inspired and compelled me; an interview with an Afghan refugee speaking about his narrow escape from the death grip of the Taliban, actually from death itself.  Knowing he was in perilous danger, of survival necessity he had planned his precarious flight from the country. He describes his

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Silence

On my mind, Trauma and Neglect /

“Why Won’t You ‘Just’ Talk to Me?” As I was pondering the recurring devastating dynamic between a couple I work with, a memory from my own life bubbled up. For those of us who have the minimal and spotty memory of early life, typical of neglect, these little forays into memory are rather like wandering

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Changing Spots

On my mind /

Mistakes, Butterflies and Potholes I have a special affection for leopards. As I love to say, “you know the old adage ‘A leopard can’t change its spots?’ Well, I can. And I change my spots every chance I get.” Healing is all about that. The “Decade of the Brain” and neuroimaging technology taught us that

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